Are You Married To An Officer And A Gentleman, Or One Who Thinks He Is?

When the Gentleman Becomes a Heel

You’ll never get to know which type of fish you have caught until you have hooked and reeled him in. Marriage is a big eye-opener, and whatever blemishes in character you have missed, you will discover these in due time. The first opportunity was finding a Zippo lighter with a cheesy etching of endless love in your man’s shirt pocket.

It was surely not from you because you gave him one of those military Zippo lighters, one that had a big red letter M and an iconic marine picture on chrome. That was a fairly new Zippo edition, so the piece you’re looking at is definitely not yours. The lighter showed off a playboy bunny, definitely not something you’d give your husband.

Now you you’re sure your man is seeing somebody else, thanks to that personalized Zippo you discovered. The thought can be overwhelming. No wonder the tears on your cheeks haven’t dried up because you cannot confront the bastard. Anyway, whether he denies or admits the truth, the harm has been done.

It sure does clear the air if he says something like “I am sorry.” But if he is a repeat offender, a thousand apologies won’t bring back that old comfortable footing in your relationship.

The Gentleman, or the Heel

Married men, though not all, will taste the forbidden fruit of extramarital affairs. How they react to getting caught or discovered reveals the gentleman or heel that he is.

The man will admit to his betrayal, will be truly repentant about deceiving you, and will do his best to make up for it. The cad, however, will [/spin]harangue|bluster[/spin] his way out of the circumstance, terrorize you, and call you a jealous hag, which frankly, you are at the moment.

Your gentlemen of a husband will drive to woo you back and obediently drop his shoe into the shoe basket each time he arrives from work. He’ll do anything to make you feel the justified victor. The cad? He’ll continue to do as he wishes, and tell you to buff his Doc Martens because he has to leave ASAP, just when he just breezed in!

The gentleman won’t actually abuse|maltreat you, but will be firmly/spin] tell you if you’re going overboard with the seize any opportunity to exploit you anytime he gets cranky, lousy, hungry, or if thechildren are rowdy.

Definitely, the gentleman won’t go for a divorce; the cad will ask for it.