How YOU Can Rekindle The Passion In Your Marriage Now!

Like many people, you have been in your relationship for a a while now now. However, as solid as you feel your relationship or marriage to be – you both love each other, your life is stable – you suddenly start to feel that the thrill is fading out of your relationship. Your husband may express little interest in you physically, or he may be starting to withdraw - and even though nothing is “wrong”…well, something IS wrong! If this sounds like you, it may be that your relationship is suffering from lack of effort. That’s right, it takes WORK to make attraction last!

Many marriages don’t last because a) people do not put any EFFORT into maintaining their relationship, or b) couples don’t know how to keep things fresh and exciting, and they don’t understandwhat is happening until it is too late. Most relationship advice or marriage advice focuses on the problems that people perceive to be biggest in their relationship, like cheating, arguing or lack of sex. The thing is, the attraction between partners is the actual foundation of the relationship. So many problems that a relationship has can be solved by learning how to repair the diminishing attraction.

One expert in the field of relationship advice, Dating and Relationship Coach Rori Raye , has some essential keys to keeping that spark alive. First of all, attraction is not the same thing as sex - they go hand in hand, but once you repair the attraction, the sex will come! You spend a lot more time out of bed than in it, so you need to focus on that time first and foremost.

Now, have you and your partner developed a routine that is predictable and humdrum? This is normal in a long term relationship, but it doesn’t have to make your relationship boring and conventional. Something you can do that helps obliterate the boredom is trying new things together.

Beginning a project or even enrolling in a class together is a great way to grow closer as a couple and explore your common interests. Have something that needs done around the house? Try planting a garden, transforming your basement into a social room or even repaint and update your bedroom. If you both like to read, you can even do book discussions, or start a movie review club and submit it to the local paper! Whether you find a shared interest in dance, gardening, or tennis, committing to learning something new together is a great way to reconnect and communicate.

Getting physically active together is another wonderful way to reconnect your relationship. It gets your heart racing, reduces stress, and will make you feel good (if not at first, then eventually). It will also give you both more energy, which will promote a good sex life. By supporting each other through the challenge of physical exertion, you will build mutual respect for each other while you build your confidence. A huge bonus is that as your physical fitness improves, so will your body image and energy- which will make sex a lot more desirable.

Body language and physical communication are as important (actually, more important, as about 90% of our communication comes directly from body language and non verbal cueing) as verbal communication. You will be surprised by how much increased touching will raise your levels of attraction to one another. Sneaking in hugs, kisses, and caresses during casual moments around the house is a great way to reassure him that you are still attracted to him. Not only that, but it arouses his interest in you, too.

Don’t be afraid to shake things up with the element of surprise. Plan a sexy encounter by leaving a trail of clues from the front door to the bedroom, (hey - marriage advice does not have to be BORING!) or create a dinner menu of aphrodisiac foods, and then feed them to him. Not only does this excite him, but it makes him want to rise to the challenge and surprise you, too. Just try it and see.

Next time you feel like things are getting stale in your relationship, suggest trying something new together, ramp up your level of touching, and last but not least-use the element of surprise to seduce him. You will not be disappointed! If you would like to learn MORE in depth tools to help your relationship or marriage remain strong, healthy and vibrant, check out Rori Raye’s relationship toolkit!